You Don’t Drink?

Posted by Ruth Cassell on April 18, 2014 · Leave a Comment 

The Answer I Never Give to the Question I Always Get   I’ve never had a DUI or been arrested. I did wake up with my car nose deep in a snow bank and not remember how I got there. I’ve never lost all my money, family or friends to booze. I did lie to … Continue reading →

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First Be Patient with Yourself

Posted by Ruth Cassell on March 14, 2014 · Leave a Comment 

Driving along with windows down, warm spring air rushes into our ears and lungs. From the back seat, “Where does wind come from?” The question stumps me. Incessant questions stream from the back seat while he and I are running errands, driving to preschool, and truth be told anytime we’re in the car and he’s … Continue reading →

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Life without coffee

Posted by Ruth Cassell on January 31, 2014 · Leave a Comment 

I like my coffee like I like my men. Tall. Dark. Hot. (Joking…joking) I share the same love for the beverage we call by many affectionate names—Java, Joe, sweet nectar of the gods—as my fellow coffee aficionados. It came as a surprise, a shock even to me, when I proclaimed to take a month hiatus … Continue reading →

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Everything In Its Place

Posted by Ruth Cassell on January 27, 2014 · Leave a Comment 

Peppercorns rattle as I push past a fresh packet of red chili peppers. We always kept those on hand to finish the dhal. Red Chili peppers, garlic cloves, and white cumin seeds dropped in scorching hot olive oil and drenched over a simmering pot of chick peas. Our kitchen wafted with sautéed onions and oil … Continue reading →

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You Know How This Goes

Posted by Ruth Cassell on January 22, 2014 · Leave a Comment 

Trigger warning: I first shared this piece in a Master’s level writing course and it was hard on one of the women in my class, so I want to preface it with this warning. You Know How This Goes is a counter piece to I Know How This Goes. I wrote and share these pieces with the intention … Continue reading →

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I Know How This Goes

Posted by Ruth Cassell on January 22, 2014 · Leave a Comment 

Trigger warning: I first shared this piece in a Master’s level writing course and it was hard on one of the women in my class, so I want to preface it with this warning. I Know How This Goes is a counter piece to You Know How This Goes. I wrote and share these pieces with … Continue reading →

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“The one person…

Quote · Posted by Ruth Cassell on May 4, 2013 · Leave a Comment 

The one person I am with forever is me. My relationship with myself is eternal, so I choose to be my own best friend. I choose to love and accept myself and talk to myself as I would to a beloved person in my life. I saturate all the cells in my body with love, … Continue reading →

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