You Don’t Drink?

The Answer I Never Give to the Question I Always Get   I’ve never had a DUI or been arrested. I did wake up with my car nose deep in a snow bank and not remember how I got there. I’ve never lost all my money, family or friends to booze. I did lie to … Continue reading

Life without coffee

I like my coffee like I like my men. Tall. Dark. Hot. (Joking…joking) I share the same love for the beverage we call by many affectionate names—Java, Joe, sweet nectar of the gods—as my fellow coffee aficionados. It came as a surprise, a shock even to me, when I proclaimed to take a month hiatus … Continue reading

Equations of Value

I finally found my word. Everything I read or heard about finding an inspirational word for the year—not a resolution or a goal, but a theme, a purpose—proved true. The word repeatedly solved perceived problems. In and of itself, the word became a way to delineate the options ahead of me. Other words clambered for … Continue reading

Competition Becomes Me

In a guest post last week, Sarah Beth Jones of Nary Ordinary Business Services discussed Why Internal Competition Rules and External Competition Drools. She invited a response, and Attention Anonymous accepted the challenge. This post was originally published on the No B.S. blog. Facing a full length mirror in my first ever Body Pump class, I eye the girls … Continue reading

A Woman with Intention

Propped on the bedside, nylon stockings stretched under A-line skirt, I stroke his soft cheek. Waiting for him to stir, I cherish a rare quiet moment. I coax him from under the warm covers with soft kisses and a slow back scratch. I intend: To bring him into a new day gently and kindly. To … Continue reading

Do you fear what I fear?

Love doesn’t come the way it once did: a loud patron pushing open an unhinged door and allowing in the evening’s bluster, announcing the need for a seat though no reservation shows on the books. Love isn’t invited the way it once was: by an exposed and impressionable hostess granting not permission but giving always … Continue reading

Dear Lover, Do you fear what I fear?

Love doesn’t come the way it once did: a loud patron pushing open an unhinged door and allowing in the evening’s bluster, announcing the need for a seat though no reservation shows on the books. Love isn’t invited the way it once was: by an exposed and impressionable hostess granting not permission but giving always … Continue reading

Letting My Child Go: A Practice in Saving Me

Yellow buses crawl across the front parking lot, puffing and hissing with each nudge. A mother shuffles her small herd across the sidewalk, smiling and scolding them in turn. Bright headlights wind one after another off the crowded main street, blinking in the early morning light. I crane to watch out the side window as … Continue reading

Communication Addiction

I’m addicted to communication. Communication—email, texts, social media—serves me professionally as a fundraiser and personally as a writer and blogger. Still, I realize my need to interact with others can lead to unhealthy habits. Like perimeter shopping in the grocery store, I’m learning to choose the freshest ideas and communicate in the healthiest ways rather … Continue reading

Divorce and Death: What Was, What Could Have Been

I imagined sitting in a lawyer’s office giving depositions to finalize my divorce would be nothing less than tortuous. Have you been separated for more than a year? Yes. Is there any chance for reconciliation? No. How could such questions—monotonous and unnervingly devoid of emotion—not cause me to collapse in sorrow? Two reasons. These final … Continue reading