Work: It’s What I Do

I value hard work. It took me some time to realize the intrinsic link between that value and my worldview. A hard worker is as attractive to me as sculpted arms or deep chocolate eyes. On days I feel unproductive, my sense of self worth plummets. For me, recognizing how I view hard work was … Continue reading

You Don’t Drink?

The Answer I Never Give to the Question I Always Get   I’ve never had a DUI or been arrested. I did wake up with my car nose deep in a snow bank and not remember how I got there. I’ve never lost all my money, family or friends to booze. I did lie to … Continue reading

Not for your viewing pleasure

  To the men perched in the coffee shop window:   You frighten me, frankly, and I sit alone with a long walk back to my car and dusk creeping quickly over the sky. The first overheard conversation: Complaints about a shared job. Sounds dull and fairly meaningless, but an honest day’s work of some … Continue reading

First Be Patient with Yourself

Driving along with windows down, warm spring air rushes into our ears and lungs. From the back seat, “Where does wind come from?” The question stumps me. Incessant questions stream from the back seat while he and I are running errands, driving to preschool, and truth be told anytime we’re in the car and he’s … Continue reading

Life without coffee

I like my coffee like I like my men. Tall. Dark. Hot. (Joking…joking) I share the same love for the beverage we call by many affectionate names—Java, Joe, sweet nectar of the gods—as my fellow coffee aficionados. It came as a surprise, a shock even to me, when I proclaimed to take a month hiatus … Continue reading

Everything In Its Place

Peppercorns rattle as I push past a fresh packet of red chili peppers. We always kept those on hand to finish the dhal. Red Chili peppers, garlic cloves, and white cumin seeds dropped in scorching hot olive oil and drenched over a simmering pot of chick peas. Our kitchen wafted with sautéed onions and oil … Continue reading

You Know How This Goes

Trigger warning: I first shared this piece in a Master’s level writing course and it was hard on one of the women in my class, so I want to preface it with this warning. You Know How This Goes is a counter piece to I Know How This Goes. I wrote and share these pieces with the intention … Continue reading

I Know How This Goes

Trigger warning: I first shared this piece in a Master’s level writing course and it was hard on one of the women in my class, so I want to preface it with this warning. I Know How This Goes is a counter piece to You Know How This Goes. I wrote and share these pieces with … Continue reading

The Power of Truth

Within each day, I come to countless crossroads when I must choose whether to respond authentically. Some critical. “Mommy, why did you pick me up late?” Others mundane. “What time did you wake up this morning, honey?” I sometimes struggle to say what represents my actual thoughts or experience. “Ruth, we talked about what to … Continue reading

Let Go

It may be you need to let go of your preconceptions. It may be you need to let go of fear of the unknown. It may be you need to let go of worry over the past or anxiety over the future. It may be you need to let go of negative self-talk. It may … Continue reading