Change begets Change

This summer, I went on a life change bender. I simultaneously undertook two of life’s major changes. I said I do, again, merely two years after my divorce finalized and four years after my first marriage ended. I said yes to a new job, completely obliterating my comfort zone and choosing passion and intuition over … Continue reading

The Tempest of Love Addiction

Rushing to revive a lost tug living just below the surface. Rigged to another sputtering engine. A rudderless race. Roving with no true destination. Hitched to another’s helm for survival. Love addiction. An addiction in its truest form: an anticipation of revelry, a fix realized, and the relief that follows. Without constant reassurance the love … Continue reading

Do you fear what I fear?

Love doesn’t come the way it once did: a loud patron pushing open an unhinged door and allowing in the evening’s bluster, announcing the need for a seat though no reservation shows on the books. Love isn’t invited the way it once was: by an exposed and impressionable hostess granting not permission but giving always … Continue reading

Dear Lover, Do you fear what I fear?

Love doesn’t come the way it once did: a loud patron pushing open an unhinged door and allowing in the evening’s bluster, announcing the need for a seat though no reservation shows on the books. Love isn’t invited the way it once was: by an exposed and impressionable hostess granting not permission but giving always … Continue reading

I Must Take Care of Me

On hold to make a doctor’s appointment, I listen to the ringtone-quality music, twirl my hair and think about what’s for dinner. “Women spend so much time taking care of others that they often forget to take care of themselves…” I’m sure you’ve heard it. Trying to make a doctor’s appointment while sending an email … Continue reading

Battling People Pleasing Tendencies

Last week, I wrote about Fellow Warriors in the Battle for Yourself and shared stories of women who show me everyday how saying no and being their own person changes their lives for the better. I met Sarah Beth Jones, co-owner of Nary Ordinary Business Services, at the Roanoke Regional Writer’s Conference at Hollins University. She gave a … Continue reading

Fellow Warriors in the Battle for Yourself

Sitting across from her with over-sized salads and ice water between us, I can tell how much stronger she is than when we first met two years ago. She’s in the process of selling the house she shared with her husband of 23 years, buying a townhouse in Richmond, and completing graduate school to get … Continue reading